It's been just over a week since our fabulous 10th wedding anniversary, and thinking back on last week's event, I am, once again, amazed with the generosity of my friends and their grand and loving gestures. How Janie reading that poem brought tears to my eyes, and how tender and beautiful Anna looked before me there. It was a very intense experience, and I felt at the same time awkward and self-conscious, and happy and intensely overwhelmed. I felt such a closeness with so many of the people there and so honored by the grand sense of occasion that so many people exhibited in such grand style: Janie with her manic, driven, loving accomplishments; Leni and Mike with their fearless and stylish patter (Who IS on first, by the way?), our fathers with their wise and loving speeches, my mother with her strange and unexpected gifts, James with his DJing, Terry and Lilly and Martha and Chaim with their amazing singing, Pete, Sophie, Anna, Kate, Dane, Joel, Tom, Uncle Harold, Melissa and Gordie and Siobhan for imprinting the event with their inimitable personalities and contributions, and finally, Jason and Marla for catching us in those final minutes and saving our vanity, and therefore, our sanity.
The thing I remember best from this event is both this overwhelming sense that it was insane to bring this group of people together for this reason -- that feeling that there were little coalitions of style amongst my friends and relatives that would maybe never coalesce into some sort of a fluid ceremony -- coupled with a kind of faith that everyone would be all right in the end. I felt like maybe I had been a bit perverse in forcing the event in a certain direction. At times I had dreams of fistfights or indiscreet liaisons between incompatible relatives or friends, and there was a moment when I thought that the whole enterprise was about to capsize, but in the end it was everything Anna and I dreamed it would be: a great party, with some crazy shit happening off to the side. Thank you to all who were there. Here is a poem for you:
I Think Continually of Those Who Were Truly Great
I think continually of those who where truly great.
Who, from the womb, remembered the soul's history
Through corridors of light where the hours are suns
Endless and singing. Whose lovely ambition
Was that their lips, still touched with fire,
Should tell of the Spirit clothed from head to foot in song.
And who hoarded from the Spring branches
The desires falling across their bodies like blossoms.
What is precious is never to forget
The essential delight of the blood drawn from ageless springs
Breaking through rocks in worlds before our earth.
Never to deny its pleasure in the morning simple light
Nor its grave evening demand for love.
Never to allow gradually the traffic to smother
With noise and fog the flowering of the spirit.
Near the snow, near the sun, in the highest fields
See how these names are feted by the waving grass
And by the streamers of white cloud
And whispers of wind in the listening sky.
The names of those who in their lives fought for life
Who wore at their hearts the fire's center.
Born of the sun they traveled a short while towards the sun,
And left the vivd air signed with their honor.
--Stephen Spender